Throughout my life I have lost close family members and friends and I’ve watched others lose just the same. My heart always aching and hurting whether I’m losing someone special of my own or watching someone else have to face that trial. It’s rough, in fact I would say it’s one of the toughest trials we face in our lifetime.
Lately though, as Blake grows, as we get older and as I constantly compare myself to everyone around me (Bad idea–don’t do that), I’ve realized something. None of this really matters. Hear me out, the “things” that we long for, all the material “wants” that we want, they don’t matter. At all. They’re fun to have, don’t get me wrong-but are these “things” really that important? We don’t need fancy shoes, a huge house, the most expensive car and all the fancy things that cost all the money. Sometimes we might feel like we “need” all the cute clothes and fanciest farmhouse decor…but when it comes down to it they’re just not important in the scheme of things.
Now as I continue on, I also want to say that it doesn’t mean we can’t buy them, it doesn’t mean we won’t. In fact that’s totally unrealistic. I’m going to buy cute home decor pieces, I’m going to spoil Blake with cute clothes–it’s just going to happen. I like doing it and I like decorating my home, it’s something that I get to do for me and it makes me happy. So don’t stop doing these things. BUT, let’s not get wrapped up in. Let’s not get so focused on what we don’t have, on what we need that we forget about what’s really important. As I was saying, I’ve lost some pretty amazing people in my life, as have you most likely and guess what? Did any of them take their fancy car with them? Nope. Did any of them bring their giant house? The answer again is, no.
I think we forget this, I forget this. We forget that “things” just don’t matter in the scheme of things. Family matters, making others happy matters, doing service matters–making this life a beautiful one, matters. We have to make sure that we’re happy ourselves, regardless of fancy things. Those things are nice to have–but are we happy without them? Would we be happy without them?
A few months ago as we were decorating our home after just moving in I started to become sad. I was sad that I didn’t have all the nice furniture I wanted, mad that our house wasn’t bigger and frustrated that we didn’t have all the money to buy nice things. What the? What’s wrong with me? I just built a home, it’s not fancy or huge, but we’ve wanted to buy a house for so long! We prayed for this, we saved for this and guess what–we did it! So what the heck am I complaining about?!
That’s what I’m talking about. We can’t let these things consume us. These “worldly” in a sense, things–they’re not what’s important and it’s going to make us sad. We have to find happiness in ourselves, in our families and in our current situation because we never know what’s going to happen next! Not to mention, and I can tell you this from experience, you’ll be miserable. At that time I was so focused on what we didn’t have, on what was going wrong in our lives that I was seriously miserable. I was sad all the time, so stressed, so overwhelmed. I neglected my job at being a Mom, a wife and I neglected my own self worth.
So I’ve learned (and I’m still learning), things will always work out if you’re just happy with the now and if you have faith. Faith that things will work, trust in God and happiness in your current situation. So here’s to loving pretty things, but not overwhelming ourselves in the “must have” state of mind and finding happiness in the now (even if it’s totally messy)!
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