I was sitting in on a webinar the other day and we got to the part about social media, stats and numbers. The instructor was talking about how important it is to have X number of likes and X number of followers, etc. etc. The webinar ended shortly after I remember going through the entire day worried about how many likes my pictures were getting, watching my following and feeling pretty crappy about myself.
Then I clicked on over to a few other pages, these Moms were gorgeous, their homes perfect and had so many followers. I was jealous, I was angry because I have worked so hard and I just kept comparing myself. I tried to figure out how I could be more like that, how I could afford to do that and wondering why I didn’t have that life.
Then, it hit me.
We ALL struggle.
Each and every one of us have our own trials that we face every single day. Some that might look like they have it easier than you and some that don’t. Here’s the thing though, our individual trials are hard for us. Just because I can handle one thing doesn’t mean another person can. And this number game, oh this stupid number game. It only makes us miserable. Why in the world do we compare ourselves?
Why do we sit there and over analyze every, little thing in our life?
Why do we stalk Pinterest for hours on end when it’s only going to make us feeing completely worthless?
It’s because we play this game. This game of looking at pictures and thinking everyone has it better than ourselves. Thinking they have it figured out, they get everything they want and our own lives suck. When in reality, if you look deep, deep into that picture you’ll see it. You’ll see the 76 tries it took to get that one perfect picture, you’ll see the tired eyes that Mom has because she was up all night with her newborn baby, you’ll see that their life isn’t perfect.
Pretty pictures don’t mean anything.
I love pretty pictures, but I’ll be the first to tell you that my life is a hot friggin’ mess. Like a BIG hot mess. I cry most days, my house is a mess, I stress about money, I worry about the future and I can’t help but feel completely overwhelmed nine times out of ten.
So it’s time to knock it off. It’s time to stop looking at the pretty pictures, looking at the numbers and instantly comparing yourself. Your life is good, you have it good–it’s just about perspective.
You can look at your life and compare yourself to the Mom on Instagram with hundreds of thousands of followers, a gorgeous home and beautiful hair. Or you can appreciate the home you do have, snuggle those babies in front of you and remember the happiness that surrounds you.
We all do it, I do it, I guarantee the cool Mom on social media does it too. It’s in our nature, but it’s a habit we HAVE to break. It’s clearly getting us no where. It’s only making the days longer and harder than they already are.
So do your best, be inspired and enjoy the pretty pictures, feel happiness for them.
Don’t get jealous.
Then look at your own baby(ies) and remember you have happiness right in front of you.