Do you ever just feel so tired? Like physically, mentally and emotionally exhausted? The point where our brains are kind of mush all day, in fact you’re pretty much useless. You know you have two hundred things to do, but you mentally can’t even handle it, you can barely handle taking care of your babe let alone yourself. Yeah, that tired. That’s the tired I’ve felt today.
The tired where you can’t even handle worrying anymore, wondering, trying to make a plan and you just don’t care.
Literally, don’t give a crap.
In that moment, all your mind can take is being a Mom. You just have to sit back, stay in comfy clothes all day, ignore the laundry, dishes, work and everything in between. You soak in all the cuddles, enjoy Mickey Mouse clubhouse and let your little eat half the container of puffs.
It’s one of those days, where you just pick your battles.
Then comes the end of the day..nothing is done, you’re still exhausted as ever and it’s time to rock the babe to sleep. As you’re rocking them to sleep you make a big realization.
The realization; today was good.
Today was actually REALLY, really good.
I think sometimes you just need to hit that point. The point where you can’t wait to close your eyes and go to bed, but you spend the entire day having quality time with your baby, even if you didn’t realize it. You ignored all of the housework, didn’t bother even looking at your to-do list and you hung out all day with the one little person that means the entire world to you. Only..you didn’t even realize that’s what happened until this second. Instead you were so tired, so focused in on being a Mom, that your brain was in total relaxation “I don’t care” mode.
So often I’m in a rush, I’m worrying, I’m working on my next project or trying to finalize my current one that I forget to just be tired, to just relax, to JUST be a Mom for the day. That it’s completely normal to not be Super Woman for just one day. Just one day where I can just chill, where I can remember what it’s like to laugh with my little girl, where I can laugh at how ridiculous Mickey Mouse Clubhouse is, but watch how much excitement it brings her. In fact, I could literally tell you what today’s episode was about. That’s the kind of day we should be living for. They don’t come often, but they should.
The kind where I didn’t argue or say no to the water table. She played in it FIVE times. We literally went through five outfits, which means more laundry for me that I haven’t even started in the first place. But it was worth it, it was so freaking worth it. She smiled, she laughed. I literally didn’t care about a single work thing, finances, housework or any other crap happening. I soaked it in, even if I didn’t realize that’s what I was doing, I was doing it. And guess what, I was happy. My heart was so happy, my mind was at peace and the “tiredness” of always being on the go and worrying overcame me. That’s what we should be doing every, single, day.
Obviously, there has to be worries, we have to work, in fact I really do love working, but sometimes it’s a lot. I think life is just a lot and worries always come. BUT we don’t need to worry, we don’t need to let it affect our quality time with our babies. I heard a saying from a movie yesterday and it went like this…
“Why don’t you ever worry?” His answer; “Would it help?”
Oh my gosh did that hit home. When I heard it I wanted to scream, THAT IS WHAT I NEED. Only the problem is, my mind just doesn’t work like that. Seriously though, let’s just talk about this, does worrying help?! Nope. It doesn’t. In fact whatever is going to happen, is going to happen and we will figure it out. We will make it through it, we do every, single, time. And guess what, did worrying ever make a difference during one of those times? NOPE. It never did. Can we “re-wire” our brains to learning this? Heck, I don’t know, but for today…I’m tired and those worries just don’t matter. Tomorrow, might be another story. However–I think this saying is one to live by. Every time things look a little stressful, like they’re not going to work out, just repeat it in our head–“Is worrying going to help?”
It just ages us, makes us sick, takes quality time away from our babies and our family and makes for long, bad days. So you know what, let’s just live this life, let’s just take what comes our way–kick it in the butt and enjoy everyday to the absolute fullest. Things don’t need to be perfect, we can do what we absolutely love, and our house can be messy for a day!
Have a tired day, ignore the housework, answer emails later and watch your babe ruin five outfits because they’re having a blast playing with the hose.