It’s 12:30am and I just finished working for the day. My days are long, I work super hard, but I love it. I love my job, I love that I get to write my feelings out, help others and meet amazing people. I get to follow my dreams and hope for the best. However, with working and running my own business comes a little something I like to call, “Mom guilt” and TO THE MAX.
My day goes a little something like this, I wake up, bring Blake into bed with us and we listen to music together for a little bit. Then eventually we’re forced to get out of bed and conquer the day. Blake generally spends most of the day with Grandma while I work. My office is in our house, so she’s there all day, but it’s not quite the same. I will usually check out from about 4-8 and spend time with her and Marcus. Then it’s back to work until the morning sometime. This works for me though and it gives me baby time–which is my favorite.
As a working Mom things aren’t always easy. Things aren’t easy for a Mom in general, throw working full time and being a full time mom in the mix and they’re even more complicated. Plus talk about Mom guilt to the max. Though, here’s the thing, I love it, to a point. I absolutely love my job. Yes, there are days when I finish a 15 hour day where I think, holy cow, I’m exhausted and I need a vacation. That being said, I wouldn’t change it for the world. Like I said, I love my job. I get to learn the value of hard work and I get to meet amazing people like you, but most of all, I get to inspire Blake in a different way. And please note, I didn’t say a better way, a different way–I praise stay at home moms and as far as I’m concerned they are working full time taking care of their babes!
So this same thought process applies for both working and non working Moms, we’re all absolutely exceptional and killing it. We’re just doing it in different ways! The Mama that gets to be a full time Mom and stay home with her babe is teaching them patience, strength, wisdom and passion. As she cooks and cleans everyday, takes care of her babies, loves more than she thought possible and teaches them new things everyday she is teaching them will power and worth. That they can do anything they put their mind to and that they’re strong, they’re so strong. That after running around with kids all day, messes, doctor’s appointments and sometimes chaos happiness is still right there because being a Mom is the best thing in the world no matter how you achieve it.
I get to teach my baby those same things just from a different perspective. That she can manage to follow her dreams and still be a Mom, working mom or not, we can and are all teaching our babies that. While I work all day and most times my sweet babe has to spend the day with Grandma she is learning patience and independence. Though it may be heart wrenching somedays and give major mom guilt the next, I’m providing a future for her and it makes those extra moments when I’m away from work, even more special. I hope that I am teaching her strength, love and hope. Strength to get through the hard days, to push forward even if you fail. Failure is just a step away from success. Love, that she should love everyone for who they are. That she should help, give back and pray for those around her. And hope that there is still greatness and happiness in our sometimes scary world. Hope that she CAN achieve her goals and dreams, that everything is going to work out in the end. I hope that she can see all my hard work is for her, because I love her more than anything and want to give her a better future.
I could probably work less, but it’s not going to achieve what I want if I do. However, being a Mom is my number one and I try my hardest to balance the two. So if that means I work until 2am so I can spend the afternoon with my sweet baby, then I’ll work until 2am. We all make sacrifices, every single one of us and for the best, so that we can better ourselves and our family.
So today, we celebrate the stay at home mom, the working mom and the hopeful Mom. I think sometimes we just need to remind ourselves, write it out and let ourselves know that what we’re doing is for the best. Our littles love us no matter what and we need to kiss Mom guilt GOODBYE.
And on a side, semi related note, I’m now teaching a workshop with Modern Thrive, it’s set to go live in March and it’s all about “Designing a Career That Works With Your Life“. We will chat about building a career you’re passionate about and the path to getting it started. While keeping your life and circumstances in mind.
This week only you can grab $50 off of it with the code “POSITIVELYOAKES” — so I would hurry and take advantage of that.
I love you all!