I wrote this post a couple of weeks ago for The Baby Burp, but have been asked a lot how I manage working and caring for Blake full time so I decided, duh, I need to share it here too!
As a working Momprenuer it’s sometimes hard to balance it all. Okay, who am I kidding? Sometimes is an understatement. It’s ALWAYS hard to balance it all. There are three main things I’ve learned since becoming a Mom and trying to balance it all, especially work.
First, you don’t have to do everything. It’s okay not to be Super Mom, Super Boss, Super Wife or Super whoever. Ask for help. This was a hard concept for me to be okay with. I am pretty independent and I hate asking for help. However, the reality is and especially once you have a little babe, you’ll need help and it will all be a matter of when. It doesn’t make you less of a person and it doesn’t make you a bad Mom. In fact it makes us better women and better Moms to have the courage to ask for a little help when it’s needed!
Second, throw the guilt in the trash. You shouldn’t feel guilty for working, you shouldn’t feel guilty for any aspect when it comes to Motherhood. I remember the first day I went back to work, which was four days after Blake was born. I tried so hard to work right next to her, but couldn’t get anything done. Not because she was crying, but because I just wanted to stare at her and love on her. I only had about an hour of work to do, but it had to be done. I decided to put her in her swing for that hour. I felt awful, I felt awful that I had to work four days later and I felt guilty that I put her in her swing for an hour. Then I learned, if you have to take a break from your little babe to get some work done, as hard as it may be, it’s okay. You’re allowed to do that and guess what they’ll love you just as much when you come back and greet them with lots of kisses! So the minute you’re feeling guilty, push that thought out of your mind, hold your little babe and remember they love you no matter what.
Third, do the work when you can. If you had a schedule before your little guy or girl came into the world you can most likely kiss that goodbye. Be accepting of that and be excited for a new version of a “schedule”. For example my new schedule consists of working when I can, which is generally early in the morning or at night when Dad gets home from work. That’s okay, as long as I get what I need done the hours and schedules just don’t matter anymore. Also, if there’s something that has to be done at a certain time, for example a conference call, then this goes back to the first thing I said. Don’t be afraid to ask for help. Call someone to come over or take your babe to their house for a little bit, get the call done and then pick them up and smother them in kisses!!
Being a Mom is hard enough without the extra tasks of working and balancing life, don’t make it harder than it has to be by making yourself feel guilty or bad. You’re doing an amazing job and don’t forget that your little one loves you tons no matter what!