Making Being Mom Work While You’re A Working Mom
I like to always start any parenting piece with a disclaimer. The story I’m about to share is mine. I don’t think anyone else needs to do things the way I do to be successful. I just love sharing my perspective in case it is helpful to others. Everyone is different, and I respect that.
In my family because of locations, timing and a number of other factors, I handle drop-off and pick-up of my son from preschool. There is one extremely important thing you need to know about that: I am not a morning person. Not in the slightest.
It took the boy and I from November to February to get our act together in the mornings. By the end of February, we called ourselves a team. I have found this label to be extremely important for us.
Because with teams come teamwork and collaboration and wins and losses. This sounds a bit steep for a 3-year-old, but it’s really worked for us. Getting ready in the morning is the single most stressful part of my day. And I’m “super-chill-Buddhist- yoga-lady.” But my temper appears out of nowhere in the mornings. The lack of cooperation, which is completely normal, from the boy makes me nuts.
Here’s what I have to reconcile while storming around the house barking orders: I love my son and I love my job, which I need to get to, and I love being–well, not a grumpper butt.
It’s a juggling act, as you’ve probably heard so many time before that it sounds cliche. However, it’s true. Fully dedicating yourself to different aspects of your life at certain times, is what amounts to your balls in the air.
Now I would love to claim that when I’m at work, I’m focused only on work and that I never bring my work home because that is family time. But that would be a lie. I want to be the best at all the things I do. So I bring work home. Sometimes, I can’t focus at work and miss the boy so desperately, I have to scan through photos of him to get my fix. Othertimes, I take time just for me. I go play roller derby with my friends, or I take a couple hours out on a weekend to get in a really good yoga class. And work get completely shut down on Sunday while we spend the day at temple.
All that is my juggling act. That how I make being a mom work while I am a dedicated full-time working mom. And oh yeah, mistakes are made. I forget my phone all the time these days. Probably because I actively try to focus on the kid rather than my phone. And I’m sure I misspell lunch box notes. And sometimes the bears I draw look like dogs. Sometimes I miss yoga classes for so long that my sciatica flares up and then I find time for my mat. I miss more derby practices than I make because I’m tired, or I caught the family cold, or I have work deadlines. And lordy, my house. I won’t even admit to how long it’s been since I dusted (we all have that one chore we can’t stand, right?)
But my team gets all that. They get it. My husband, the boy, the dog. They get it. I can’t do it all at any given time. But with the team pitching in, we can get it all done eventually. I’m so proud of my team and together we make it work.
Tell me, do you have a team? Stay at home or working full time, how do you make it work?
Author: Sara Downey Robinson
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