Just Your Average (shoeless) Trip to the Library…

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Since summer is drawing to an end here really soon and my FAVORITE season is fast approaching I’ve been trying to do all the things with Blake. You know, like get out of the house — go to the pool, go to the library, to the park, wherever! Plus, it’s nice for this Mama to take a step back from work for an hour and have serious quality time with my babe! Last week we went to the library and it was seriously exactly what my heart needed. It was during one of those days, you know the “temper tantrum, laundry piled everywhere, to do list a mile long, dirty dishes in the sink kind of day”. It was honestly the last thing I wanted to do. Blake was having mega meltdowns about everything and constantly saying “NO!” and I felt like my patience was on the bridge of breaking. Somehow though, I pushed myself to brush my hair, put a baseball hat on (you know, to hide the mess underneath it) and got us out the door.

Blake refused to wear shoes and kicked them off fifteen times and as we were driving there I kept thinking, why? Why are we going out into public right now? There’s no way this is going to work, we will walk in and turn around 30 seconds later. Then I had another thought.

JUST LET HER GO FRIGGIN’ BAREFOOT.

I’m kind of a germ freak (but only when it comes to my baby…ha!), we will talk more about that in a minute, so this thought stressed me out in more than one ways. At that moment though, it wasn’t worth the fight and guess what? We ended up having the best time! Luckily, I ALWAYS carry On-the-go Hand Sani so I put it to good use, especially at the end of our trip ;)! We wiped our hands off, used a couple hand sanitizing wipes for the table and then Blake held onto it the rest of the time we were there and on our way home. It was perfect and put my Mama heart to rest. I mean, who says you can’t use hand sanitizer on your feet too?! 😉

Blake loves books. She had a pile a foot high and we were literally there for an hour looking at all the pictures and watching their pet Guinea pig, “Sparky”. She played with the toys, climbed up the chair and off the chair about 100 times and I just let her be a baby for a little bit. I think sometimes I get wrapped up, wrapped up in parenting, teaching right from wrong, that I forget to just let her have fun. I don’t do it on purpose. I just want to keep her safe, healthy and protect her! Here’s the thing though, it only stresses her and I both out when I do it, so I’m slowly learning to just let her have fun! I can worry about shoes later and thank gosh for hand sanitizer because it fixes the problem anyways!

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babyganics

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baby library

mommy & baby

mommy & baby

Why do we choose Babyganics for our hand sanitizer? Because we just LOVE Babyganics products! I can’t stress it enough. You’ve heard me talk about them time and time again and today is no different. Their On-The-Go Hand Sanitizer is alcohol free, instantly foams and helps moisturize skin. It’s really a win, win.

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in my bag

What’s in my bag? I ALWAYS have these items when I’m on the go with Blake:

This post was sponsored by Babyganics, whereby compensation and/or product was given.


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Make Up 101 by Jess…

mommy & me make up

mommy & me make up

arbonne make up

I’m not sure why but one of the questions I get asked the most is about make up and to do a make up tutorial. If you saw my insta-story make up tutorial, you clearly know that’s a hot mess. Ha! So I’ll try and answer the question seriously here, TRY. Notice that key word, because let’s be real  I’ll probably make fun of myself the entire time and give you inaccurate tips on how to actually put make up on. 

I love to switch things up often, try new product and keep my skin feeling fresh. I don’t have pretty skin. In fact, I have the opposite. Tired eyes (Hello, Mom life), dry skin around my nose, but oily everywhere else and you know–zits. So when it comes to foundation, I want full coverage, like FULL FULL coverage. But I also my something healthy and good for my skin and my little Blake. Exhibit A:

Clearly she wants to be just like Mommy 😉 That or ruin my entire bottle of brand new foundation. I’m thinking it’s probably the latter. So I use a lot of Arbonne product. You can see their full collection and learn more, here. 

mommy & me make up

mommy & me make up

mommy & me make up

Okay have you had enough at looking at the cutest pictures ever of my kid? 😉 Now, for the tutorial. Only this time you’re going to have to imagine me dancing and videoing myself 😉

  1. Lotion, seriously I always lotion up my face before make up.
  2. Cover those zits with concealer.I use a beauty blender for almost my entire face because it helps provide better coverage. You can thank my sister for that addiction 😉 BEAUTY BLENDERS UNITE!
  3. Foundation. Literally, cover your whole face. Are y’all taking my seriously yet? Haha! I’m serious though, that’s what I do. So if you want the Jess special you better follow instructions.
  4. Oh hi, more concealer please. If you’re a Mom or just don’t sleep (I’m not sure why you would choose to do that though), you know what I’m talking about. You literally need about 2 inches think of concealer to cover up the giant black bags under your eyes from your one year old keeping you up all night. It’s a good thing they’re cute and those snuggles of theirs make up for it because I’m a mess. 
  5. Powder. Powder. Powder. Just in case you didn’t have enough stuff covering your face, add some more. I’m kidding! Y’all, don’t make yourself look like a cake face. Come on! I put light layers on, I’m only kidding with the over the top-ness. Kind of….;) Seriously though, I use the powder to just set the foundation and add more of a clean crisp look. So just brush on a light layer.
  6. Bronze & blush. I bronze up my cheeks/forehead and then brush on a light layer of blush on my cheekbones to really give my face some UMPH! Is that a word? Did I even spell it right? Who the h knows. You know what I’m talking about. 
  7. Put my brows on. This is an important one or I can promise you I look like a scary person.
  8. Mascara. Only sometimes do I actually put eyeshadow on, most days I don’t. I brush a few layers of mascara on and call it good. 
  9. LIPS. LIPS! This is my favorite part. This is the part where I actually made it look like I semi got ready for the day, besides the fact that I haven’t washed my hair in six days. I use lip liner and a good lip color! I’m all about stains or matte lipsticks. Stains are heat because they stay on and I don’t turn my child’s entire forehead red when I’m smothering her in kisses. So really, I mean that’s a win.

That’s my routine. OH AND I DANCE. A lot. And I’m not kidding. I always turn some sort of fun song on because spending five minutes to rush and put my make up on is better with a friggin’ song. I recommend takin’ it back to the early 2000’s for some classic hip thrusting music. 

Okay, for serious though, you can shop all the pretty make up and fabulous skin product HERE. Plus if you do their preferred client program (it’s a $20 fee) you get 20% off all year long. Personally I think that’s the smartest route to go. 

OH and there’s more because well, I want to spoil you all. My girl Mollie over at Arbonne, said at checkout, when the prompt asks you if you would  like to add your order to an event type in “Positively Oakes”. That way you join for the chance to win $250 of your choice of product!

ALRIGHT TAKE ME SHOPPING ALREADY.

And you can see my favorite brushes/sponges here (just click the picture to shop them),

More details on Arbonne for those wondering:

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Transparency and honesty. They are the hallmarks of their product integrity. At Arbonne they are continuously improving and evaluating their ingredient policy so they can develop the most thoughtfully designed, innovative, safest products. And they’re always striving to do better. Each and every single day. They’ve been around since 1975 and are killin’ it in the skincare department.

 

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Rolling with the Punches…

jogging shoes

jogging shoes

Yesterday morning, we had a plan; take the dogs to the groomer, grab some lunch and go check out the BSU football event happening downtown. I got Blake dressed, got myself dressed, through on my new Kangaroo sneakers (from Payless) and we were out the door. The drive to the groomers is always a little chaotic because well, just imagine–a husband driving, Mom taming two crazy pups in the front seat and a cute little one year old in the back who LOVES to yell. I mean, you could say it was a quiet drive 😉 KIDDING.

We eventually dropped the dogs off and headed downtown. We got there way too early for actual lunch and well, the game plan was ruined from that point on. So new game plan. I’m slowly learning to just roll with the punches, in life and especially as a parent. So the Farmer’s Market it was. After about five minutes of walking around I was feeling ever so thankful for the shoes I wore because well, I almost wore a cute pair of wedges and lemme tell ya, I would have regretted that real quick. We bought treats, took pictures, ate all the guacamole samples and of course, I bought flowers. I buy flowers every time we go to the Farmer’s Market, mainly for them to die two days later because I forget to water them, but mostly because they’re pretty for pictures. I’m that person, it’s fine.

Then lunch time. YAY. We had Flatbread Pizza which was delicious. Blake only threw two fits, so we called that a win and it was actually one of the smoother lunches we’ve had out in public. So overall, we chalked it up as a win and we were on our way to our next adventure. Yet again though, we had time to kill. I mean seriously, we are NEVER early anywhere so this was weird. Two times in a row, yet somehow we can’t ever make it to church on Sundays without being at least 5 minutes late? 

We quickly changed little Blake into her BSU gear, found a park and decided to have the ultimate play date with our main girl before the event began. 😉 Well, that lasted all of five minutes because it was directly in the sun and everything was way too hot to play on. Blake spilled water all down my shirt, so I had to change and well…we were kind of at a loss as to what to do for 30-45 minutes with a one year old. At this point, Blake was kind of in meltdown central and this Mama was losing her patience and I about to throw in the towel. We were doing so good, then it all came crashing down. Isn’t that how life works though? Every time, whether it’s in a day, a month, a year, whatever–life General gives us a high and then the ultimate trial. Thank goodness for saving graces because the sweetest little boy and his Dad were heading to the car from feeding the ducks with a couple pieces of bread left. The sweet boy came running up excitedly and said, “Do you want this extra bread?!” I happily accepted and we walked over to the pond. 

feeding the ducks

feeding the ducks

feeding the ducks

feeding the ducks

feeding the ducks

feeding the ducks

Blake had a blast! Literally, the biggest smile on her face and this Mama heart completely full. The tiny gesture of giving us his extra bread, made our entire day. The geese and duck gathered around us, quacking, eating the bread and Blake loved every single second of it. Don’t let her face in the pictures fool you, okay? Because regardless of not catching one single smile, she DID have a good time. Haha! 😉

Marcus was happy, Blake was happy, I was happy, my feet were happy in my new retro sneakers 😉 and it ended up being the best day. Blake fell asleep on the 2 minute drive from the park to the stadium. We went to the Boise State Football event, she slept on Marcus’ shoulder (ha! Literally, the entire time), had a blast and unfortunately I only have one picture to prove it because I couldn’t bring in my camera into the stadium. WAH. But that’s okay! We got the cute sleepy one before we went in!

Thank goodness for the sweet, kind people left in this world, amazing family, a patient husband and a crazy day turned into a great one. 

More on my shoes I talked all about throughout the post: 

jogging shoes

jogging shoes

Payless brought back their retro Kangaroo sneakers and well, I’m kind of obsessed. They’re beyond comfy, pretty dang cute and I love that I can pair them with a cute outfit and keep things comfy, but put together. Plus, they’re REALLY inexpensive for jogging shoes, but still give you support and bounce. You can see the full collection, here.

OH and I should let you know that Payless is having a 15% off sale today…run over and get your hands on cute shoes NOW

Shop my favorite Kangaroo’s here:

This post was sponsored by and in collaboration with Payless. Read our full disclosure, here.


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Motherhood…

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“NO!”

“Don’t touch that please…”

“Don’t touch that!”

“You have to eat food, real food, not just ice cream.”

“Please sleep, seriously.”

“GET OUT OF THE DOG FOOD!”

“Please don’t do that!”

I feel like my days are filled with these constant sayings. You know, where you start out nice…then get frustrated, then by the 10th time the dog bowl has been spilled it’s flat out “NO!!!!!!!”. It’s hard y’all. 

I often wonder if I’ll ever figure it out, if I’ll ever learn how to balance everything. I wonder if she’s just going to remember me constantly disciplining her, constantly getting frustrated and often on the verge of tears. I feel like that’s all our days ever are anymore. She’s busy, she’s so busy. She doesn’t stop. If she’s not climbing on the coffee table, she’s dumping the dog bowls. If she’s not dumping the dog bowls, she’s finding the one little thread in our living room chair and ripping a hole in it. It’s a constant battle all day long. 

She’s learning though, she’s discovering and she should be. That’s the problem. She doesn’t know better, she’s still figuring things out–but it’s a lot amongst the toys everywhere, the dishes piled to the ceiling and the six laundry baskets filled with clean clothes that need to be folded. 

I just hope one day she knows that I tried. I tried so hard to be a good Mom, to do fun things, to let her just have fun and ignore the mess. I did my best, I’m doing my best. It’s a constant learning game, all day, everyday. 

I just want her to remember the fun times. Obviously the lessons learned, but happy memories–ya know? I want her to remember the little moments we had. How she just started belly laughing while I was rocking her for hours to try and get her to just sleep, but it helped me relax. That laughter brought the biggest smile to my face, I couldn’t help but just laugh back with you. It’s like they know when we need an intervention, a Mom intervention. You know, that moment when you’re in the holy cow I’m going to go insane phase. Somehow they do something that pulls us right back in and grounds us. 

Those are the things I hope she remembers. Those moments are the things that I need to remember, on the daily. When I’m feeling so overwhelmed and ready to break, that she’s perfect–she’s discovering and everything’s going to be okay. 

Here’s to Motherhood! The patience I’m learning and the ability to conquer anything! Let’s rock this thing.

 

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Favorite Shop Friday: Nursing Friendly Clothing

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breastfeeding friendly clothing

breastfeeding friendly clothing

It’s been a week y’all! A busy, crazy, beautiful week. So I’m so excited to wrap it up with a great favorite shop Friday! If you love cute clothes and are possibly breastfeeding you’ll like this week’s favorite shop Friday! 

THE SHOP: Mama’s MilkBox

THE DEETS: Mama’s MilkBox is a nursing apparel subscription service for breastfeeding Moms who want to look good, feel good and breastfeed their babies – created by Mompreneur – Elena – aka America’s Breastfeeding Stylist. Seriously, their clothes are gorgeous, all nursing friendly and the real deal. You can try them on, pick your favs–purchase those and then send the rest back!  Plus, they’re seriously the best, breastfeeding or not.

THE DEAL: Use the code “OAKES10” for 10% off ANY keeps in your first box! (For NEW subscribers only)


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No One Else Matters

family fair date

family fair date

family fair date

family fair date

family fair date

family fair date

family fair date

family fair date

family fair date

family fair date

family fair date

family fair date

family fair date

family fair date

family fair date

family fair date

family fair date

As you may have saw yesterday, I had an article featured on the Huffington Post. Honestly, I am still in shock, after blogging for more than 8 years, trying and failing, and working my butt off it was one of the most rewarding feelings I have ever felt. Literally, tears all day yesterday and ALL happy! Well, I came to learn something yesterday, in fact a pretty big life lesson I would say.

NO ONE ELSE MATTERS.

What?! Is your mind totally blown? Seriously though, here’s the thought, not everyone needs to like me. In fact, it really doesn’t matter if they do. I’ve dealt with mean comments for a long time, bullying since I was a kid if you’ll call it and I’ve always let it get to me. I’ve let it get under my skin and affect me in a negative way. Here’s the thing though–it doesn’t matter. You’re the only person that can define your happiness. I am a Mom now, I am a wife and I am the luckiest girl in the world. Nothing else matters. My beautiful daughter and this crazy, stressful, amazing life we live as a FAMILY is what matters.

I wrote a post on my Facebook page yesterday after reading hurtful comments, thinking if I just addressed the situation then I would feel better, empowered, but it was the opposite. I felt bad. I felt more stressed, worried and anxious. I didn’t like that feeling. I quickly took it down and realized that again, NO ONE ELSE MATTERS. I don’t have to prove myself to anyone. I don’t need to “call anyone out”, in fact that’s doing exactly what was done to me and that’s just silly.

Be nice, live your life and find happiness in all that you do. Make the best of the situations and focus on YOURSELF and your FAMILY because no one else or their opinion matters. In fact, you’re (I’m) the only one that matters. Me, my family and our happiness. Our trip to the fair yesterday, that’s what matters. The memories we made and the happiness I felt–now that’s what life is about.

Thanks for following along in my journey. I love you all more than you know. <3

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Enjoying LALA® Yogurt Smoothies Together as a Family

This shop has been compensated by Collective Bias, Inc. and its advertiser. All opinions are mine alone. #LetsGoLALA #CollectiveBias

family breakfast

Mornings are probably the most chaotic part of our day, next to bed time. I’m not sure what it is about starting and ending the day–but I tell you, the struggle is real. Since summer is coming to an end here soon and the hustle and bustle of real life is slowly sinking in, I decided I better fix our morning routine as soon as possible. So I’ve played around, experimenting what’s best and what works for us. Finally, I have it somewhat figured out and by somewhat, I mean as good as it’s going to get. 😉 So today I’m going to share three tips I’ve learned to making your morning routine smoother and the one go to item that you NEED to have in your fridge for a snack at any time of year.

family breakfast

family breakfast

Tip #1: Accept the inevitable. Life is going to happen. You might wake up late, the baby might spill everywhere, the dogs will make a mess and you’ll probably be stressed most days. It’s normal, just accept it and run with it. I’ve found that the more I stress about the stressful situations the worst the rest of my day ends up being. When I just shrug it off, laugh about it and move on, things are a lot easier for not just me, but all of us.

Tip #2: Make your life easier and buy on the go breakfast. LALA Yogurt Smoothies are our go to breakfast items. We all eat them, they’re made with real fruit, have 5 grams of protein and they’re easy for on the go! Plus, Blake loves them and that’s really a win when the whole family can eat the same thing.

Tip #3: Prep the night before. This was actually a struggle for me. I don’t mean to do things last minute, but I’m so busy that it seems to always happen that way. I’ll tell you though, I feel 100X better when I know that my morning is going to run smoothly and I don’t have two hundred things to do before 10am. Tidy up the house before bed, prep lunch if you’re going somewhere and have a bottle ready for your baby–whatever you can do the night before, do it!

THE GO TO SNACK

family breakfast

family breakfast

family breakfast

I mentioned it in tip #2, but I’m going to say it again, GO BUY LALA Yogurt Smoothies!!! I pair them up with nuts and most days even just drink it by itself. They’ve just been lifesaving for us on busy mornings and it’s something that we all agree on, which saves this Mama time and makes grocery shopping easier! My favorite is strawberry by far, but they have tons to choose from!

It’s in the back of Walmart, with the milk and the cheese. 😉 You’re welcome.

lala yogurt

And you can earn cash back by using Ibotta!

We’re slowly but surely getting the hang of this whole routine thing and just in time for summer to end! That’s probably for the best, since summer is all fun and games 😉 What do you do to make things go smoother?!

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White Brick Walls

If I had my way I would have white brick walls everywhere in my house, literally. However…we don’t live in an older home and I don’t have thousands and thousands of dollars to add them everywhere in my home. SO…..WALLPAPER it is! I am so excited to show y’all how our dining room/kitchen wall turned out. It’s better than I imagined and quite honestly, it looks pretty darn real if I do say so myself! Plus, it’s an affordable way to get the look I want. The wallpaper is through Graham and Brown and is actually paintable if you so desire, but as y’all know I have a serious obsession with white…so white it stayed. 😉 I was a little hesitant about wallpaper because I’ve heard horror stories, but it’s really not as bad as it seems y’all. We recently did Blake’s room too (which is coming) and both projects turned out great. I hung this white brick on my own with my Mother in law and it was definitely an all day project, but I love it and couldn’t be more happy with the results!

white brick wall

white brick wall

white brick wall

white brick wall

white brick wall

Wallpaper c/o Graham and Brown 

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Mom Jeans, but the Cool Kind..

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It’s time for another Positively Deal! This week, we’re talkin’ Mom jeans, but the cute, cool kind. Here’s the best part…they’re all under $50. MIND BLOWN. Plus, y’all these are only good jeans, like ones I have tried and they fit your body well and DON’T give you a Mom butt 😉 Now let’s just shop already okay?

SKINNIES

COLORS

FLAIR

RIPPED


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10 Fun Uses for Sponges

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10 fun uses for a sponge

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Can I let y’all in on a secret obsession I might have? Using sponges. Literally, I’m not even kidding. I love scrubbing down my counters, dishes, whatever. It’s just kind of therapeutic to me…so there’s that 😉 However, Scotch-Brite™ Brand sponges can be used for a whole bunch of things other than just scrubbing dishes! Though they are pretty great for that too. I use both the Heavy Duty Scrub Sponges and Non-Scratch Scrub ones! The Heavy Duty ones are great for my pots and pans and the non-scratch and gentle, yet tough enough to clean my counters. It’s really the best of both worlds.

Now, let’s get into the really fun stuff. 10 ways you can use your Scotch-Brite Brand sponges that you probably haven’t thought of before!

  1. Bubble Dishes party. As you can see pictured, sponges can make for a really fun time! They make great hands on activities for your curious babes. Fill the sink with bubbles on one side, give them a couple of sponges (I recommend the non-scratch ones) and have the ultimate bubble party! On the other side you can wash dishes and clean! Then use the same sponges to clean up afterwards. 
  2. Plant seeds. Plant seeds in a damp sponge and place it in a clear covered container!! Once they’ve grown a little bit, you can transfer them to soil!
  3. Make an ice pack! Scotch-Brite Non-Scratch Scrub Sponges actually make for the perfect ice packs. Get them just a little bit damp and throw them in the freezer! Next time someone has a “boo boo” pull it out and you’re ready to go! 
  4. Nail polish remover. Sponges are bendy which makes this even more perfect! Grab a glass mason jar, put the sponge inside wrapping the inside and then pour nail polish remover inside. There should be a perfect opening in the middle of the sponge to stick each finger and remove the nail polish!
  5. Kid’s fun. Like I said with number one, a bubble party! However, sponges can be used for all sorts of fun! You can cut the Scotch-Brite Heavy Duty Scrub Sponges into strips and play a fun game of Jenga or cut them into shapes and use them as stencils with paint and paper!
  6. Soap holder. A sponge makes the best soap holder because it keeps it in place and from slipping and sliding everywhere!
  7. Pin cushion. Sponges are the perfect pin cushion! Use it for sewing, crafting, whatever! 
  8. Painting! You can creat stencils as I briefly mentioned above, but even without a stencil the pattern on sponges creates a gorgeous finished look on any wall. Just pour paint on a plate, dip and lightly press on the surface you’re painting! You can even make a cool brick effect. 
  9. Licking envelopes. I mean, what’s better than skipping over the taste of licking 200 envelopes? Exactly, get a sponge damp and and use it instead!
  10. Knee pads. This one might sound silly, but after kneeling and working in the yard for 2 hours you’ll know exactly what I’m talking about! Lean on a couple of sponges and they’ll feel much better! :)

Is your mind totally blown?! You’re welcome! 

10 fun uses for a sponge

10 fun uses for a sponge

10 fun uses for a sponge

10 fun uses for a sponge

Scotch-Brite Brand does it right in the sponge department and makes the right tools for every surface. Did you know that the Heavy-Duty Scrub Sponge (the green and yellow ones) can remove baked on messes 50% faster than others. Their Non-Scratch Scrub Sponges (the blues ones) are just as great too, they just do the job without scratching! You can get them both and their heavy duty soap dispenser at Target. They often have a great selection of Scotch-Brite Brand products. Currently there aren’t any coupons, but they have them often–so watch your Cartwheel app! And if you don’t have the Cartwheel app, please stop what you’re doing and download that now! Your life will change. 😉 Or you’ll spend all the money, yep, probably that one. #targetcurse

Seriously though, did I miss one?! Because this sponge obsessed Mama needs all the tips and tricks of what to use them for!

Now, can we just look at more of these pictures from our bubble play date because I’m dying of all the cuteness. Seriously it was the most fun I’ve had in a long time and it made my heart so happy.

10 fun uses for a sponge

10 fun uses for a sponge

10 fun uses for a sponge

10 fun uses for a sponge


10 fun uses for a sponge

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